In my last post, I talked a bit about the value of listening, and it got me thinking about the kinds of communication we use, particularly with our children. I came up with three kinds of communication—three ways in which we engage.
- To share or impart information
- To provide instruction, direction, or correction.
- To connect or attune.
I think that most of us are familiar with types one and two. Especially in the early years (0-5), a huge part of the parenting role is to instruct, direct and correct. We get used to being a ‘manager parent’. And yet, if all we do is manage and direct, we are missing a fundamental aspect of developing healthy attachment. [Read more…]