The purpose of the family meeting is to create a culture within your family of open communication and shared responsibility. The model is simple—set aside approximately one hour per week to go over family schedules, discuss interpersonal challenges, and share responsibility for planning and implementation of new ideas.
What is it about the holiday season that leaves so many people stressed and anxious? Is it the extra social commitments? The financial burden of gift-giving? For many people, it is the prospect of spending time with extended family and all the history that holds. While some of us have wonderful memories of childhood holidays, many others have painful memories of sibling squabbles and rivalry, parental expectations kicked into high gear, and cringe-worthy conflict. For others, the challenge of melding two disparate sets of family traditions can feel like an emotional mind-field.
Some thoughtful planning can make a world of difference on how you and your family experience this holiday season.
- Recognize your own triggers about the holiday season. Are your memories of the holiday season positive or negative? What are you holding on to that may be getting in the way of relaxing and enjoying the time off?
I am constantly amazed at the wisdom of young people. This was shared with me recently, and with this young person’s permission, I am sharing it with you.
Through my life, I’ve learned a lot of things. Recently I’ve been contemplating a lot about what is important and what everyone should remind themselves of. So here are 16 beliefs/ideals I have. One for each year of my life!
1) Always ask questions. It helps you learn more, and more knowledge is always better.
2) Adults are your friends. In particular, your parents and teachers. They have been around a lot longer than you, and they are generally looking out for …you. One of my high school teachers has become someone who I consider a great friend, and someone I want to stay in touch with after high school. [Read more…]
There are few moments in a parent’s life more monumental than having their child move out to start his or her new life. Today, my eldest daughter moved into her very own home and embarked on her adult life. Although I haven’t written any poetry for nearly a quarter century, I guess her moving out moved me.
A Poem for My Eldest Daughter
The bittersweet boxes sit by the front door.
I see the gleam of anticipation in her eyes.
The future–her future–tugs impatiently at her hand,
I want to hold the door shut just one more day,
One moment more,
So the little girl I brought into this world cannot escape.
18 years rush by like a freight train on the night run.
Future, please treat her gently.
She is newly made
How do we stay connected in the face of our teen pushing away & pushing for more autonomy?
It does seem like an odd contradiction – they want less–or nothing– to do with us, and we want to stay connected to them. It seemed much simpler when they were younger…
So what are the key things parents can do to promote positive attachment with their teen?
Here is the first of my “top 5″! [Read more…]